Making consent and healthy relationships part of what it means to be a fraternity brother or sorority sister.
It’s important to note that the Greek value of consent does not only come from the creeds that our organizations are based on, but on the mission of our organizations and how we go about living up to those goals. This week’s fraternal value of the week comes from the mission of the Kappa Sigma fraternity. The five goals of the Kappa Sigma mission are:
To live up to their mission and their values, brothers of Kappa Sigma should work to promote consent and prevent sexual violence in their chapter. These mission statements provide an excellent guideline for how brothers can do so.
As colleges and universities begin to improve their efforts to end sexual violence, and as students continue to be the driving force behind change on campus, it’s important that fraternity brothers participate and support that work. The educational mission of the school is not only academic education, but education on consent and sexual assault prevention. Brothers of Kappa Sigma can follow this part of their national mission by taking part in educational sessions offered by the school and their classmates. As the campus community increases its knowledge and commitment to ending sexual violence and promoting consent, so should the brothers of Kappa Sigma.
Brotherhood is more than just friendship, but “an obligation to have a caring concern for the welfare of our members.” We want our brothers to be the best that they can be; sometimes this is recognizing the need to call them out. When we want our brothers to be their best, we have to help them grow as individuals. So calling your brother out on a sexist joke or catcalling may seem hard, but it is helping them grow as well as working to prevent sexual assault. Kappa Sigma brothers can promote the ideal of Brotherhood by living their values and holding their brothers to those same values. We want a culture in our chapters that is respectful and safe; working to do so is strengthening your brotherhood.
Personal growth and development that “prepares members for success in their chosen careers” is about more than just leadership skills. To live as members of our organizations, upholding our values beyond graduation, it is important that our education also be in living respectfully. Kappa Sigma brothers who are educated about consent and sexual assault, who continue to discuss and learn about the matters, are gaining skills and understandings that will, as their mission says, “benefit them throughout their lifetime.” Kappa Sigs should take advantage of educational programs on their campus, but also take their strong brotherhood as an opportunity to discuss these difficult topics and grow as brothers and as a chapter.
There isn’t much more that needs to be said besides what is in this mission goal: “The Fraternity should instill a sense of responsibility and integrity. The dignity of all persons shall always be respected.” Kappa Sigmas who create a culture of consent in their chapters, have no tolerance for sexual violence, and work to instill this value in their brothers are living up to the lessons of their ritual and the values of their organization. They should be able to look to their mission and their chapter’s actions and see a brotherhood who lives the value of consent and treats all people with respect.
Again, the words of the Kappa Sigma Fraternity speak clearly to the responsibility of each brother – “Members, individually and collectively, should work toward the betterment of their campus and community…and in so doing contribute to the betterment of themselves. Kappa Sigma brothers and chapters who work to promote consent and prevent sexual violence on campus improve themselves and their campus. Whether attending educational programs, supporting survivors, collaborating on events, or even discussing the issue with fellow Greeks, they can live the value of service that is the goal of their organization.
Kappa Sigma has five clear mission goals that they provide to their brothers, five opportunities for them to be leaders on their campus to make consent and preventing sexual violence part of what it means to be Greek. To live their values, a brother of Kappa Sigma can look to this mission and start to take action.