Consent is So Frat

Making consent and healthy relationships part of what it means to be a fraternity brother or sorority sister.

Fraternal Value of the Week

Each week, we feature a fraternal value which we believe represents why consent is already part of what it means to be a fraternity brother.


The Creed of Pi Lambda Phi

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This week’s fraternal value comes from the Pi Lambda Phi fraternity, who’s official philanthropy is The Elimination of Prejudice, which “works to set the conditions for sensitive societal conversations to take place, and promotes the principles of equality and inclusiveness to the widest possible audience”(1). The goal of the fraternity’s official philanthropy aligns with the mission of Consent is So Frat, to bring the conversation around consent and sexual assault into fraternities and sororities in order to make promoting consent and preventing sexual violence part of what it means to be Greek. In addition to their national philanthropy, Pi Lambda Phi’s creed holds similar commitment to this work. The Creed of Pi Lambda Phi is:

That all men are created free and equal.

That no society of men can flourish unless members of that society are endowed with the opportunities and privileges of freedom.

That freedom implies the elimination of prejudice. That the elimination of prejudice means a better understanding ‘twixt men.

That it is incumbent upon me to fight for such freedom, even with my life.

That it is incumbent upon me, in my personal life, to be devoted to the highest standards of honesty and justice.

That because my country is dedicated to the highest standards of freedom and justice for all men of all creeds, I hereby pledge allegiance to my country, and to its national symbol.

First, “that all men are created free and equal” compels a respect for all persons, to not hold power over others. Sexual assault, as an act of power and not of sex, is to deny someone this freedom.

For all to be “endowed with the opportunities and privileges of freedom”, a brother of Pi Lambda Phi must work to prevent sexual assault on campus so that all students on campus do not have this freedom. It also asks for brothers to be supportive of survivors so that they may reclaim this freedom. Promoting consent, whether through events held by the fraternity or through their education, is to work to create this culture that their creed holds them to.”

“That freedom implies the elimination of prejudice” is a call to action, from the national Pi Lambda Phi to each of its brothers. For brothers to live the creed and value this freedom, they must work to prevent all things which deny people this freedom, including sexual violence. A brother of Pi Lambda Phi creates a culture within his chapter which eliminates prejudice of violence against women – installing safe party guidelines, educating the chapter, and challenging the words and actions of its brothers. Even though these actions may at time by difficult, they are necessary for a brother to work to achieve the goal of their creed. In addition, “a better understanding ‘twixt men” calls on the brothers to educate themselves. Brothers of Pi Lambda Phi should get educated about consent and how to prevent sexual assault.

The call to action is furthered by the creed’s statement that it “is incumbent upon me to fight for such freedom.” Brothers of Pi Lambda Phi should, to live their values, fight against sexual violence that takes away the freedom of individuals on their campus.

It is not enough just to act, but to personally commit to living in a way that values consent, in order “to be devoted to the highest standards of honesty and justice”. A brother of Pi Lambda Phi knows how to value consent in his personal relationships, as well as how not to diminish it in conversation or action.

Lastly, as our country takes action against sexual assault on college campuses through the Its On Us Campaign, it’s on the brothers of Pi Lambda Phi to support these efforts. For our country to be “dedicated to the highest standards of freedom and justice for all men of all creeds” it is taking action to protect freedoms by preventing sexual assault. A brother of Pi Lambda Phi stands by the work of the country to do so.



The Creed of Pi Lambda Phi stands as a call to action and reflection for all its brothers, asking them to become brothers who make promoting consent and preventing sexual assault part of what it means to be in Pi Lambda Phi. We have and will continue to support the efforts of chapters of Pi Lambda Phi as well as of the national organization to take action to make their campuses safer. To prevent sexual violence is to work towards the elimination of prejudice.


The Creed of Sigma Phi Epsilon

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We were proud to have one of our campus representatives, a brother of Sigma Phi Epsilon, featured in the Campus Times of the University of Rochester. His efforts to promote consent and prevent sexual violence in his chapter of SigEp and the Greek community at UofR clearly comes from the creed of his fraternity. The Creed of Sigma Phi Epsilon draws on three key principles – Virtue, Diligence, and Brotherly Love.

Virtue

According to the SigEp Creed, Virtue cannot be achieved passively, but rather through action. A brother of Sigma Phi Epsilon must “stand aggressively foonesty in all walks of life” and will “speak cleanly, play cleanly, and live cleanly.” To speak virtuously, a brother speaks for what is right, supporting survivors and calling out individuals, even brothers on words that don’t live up to the creed. Challenging the ideas of brothers may be difficult, but it is done to help them live up to this value as well. It is done out of “kinship of spirit” and support for your brother. To play virtuously, a brother makes sure that the social events of his chapter support consent. Party standards that may seem like just risk management can actually work to prevent sexual violence in their social events. To live virtuously, a brother acts in a way that supports a culture of consent – supporting survivors, education himself about consent, and providing support for other work on campus to prevent sexual assault.

Diligence

For a brother of Sigma Phi Epsilon to be Diligent, he must “strive to make [his chapter] so high and so worthy that men will consider it an honor and privilege to belong to it, and will strive to be admitted to it.” For a chapter to reach this point, it should be a group of brothers who value consent. They should be a fraternity that does take action to prevent sexual assault in their space as well as a group that supports survivors and remains educated. This does not mean that the chapter is consistently raising money or running events, although SigEp chapters have taken that on, but rather that these values are instilled in their actions as a chapter and as individual brothers.

Brotherly Love

The Creed describes Brotherly Love as the following:

I believe that Brotherly Love must be given in order to be
received, and that it cannot exist without triumph of the principles of
Virtue and Diligence, for these are essential parts of it.

Brotherly Love, as a value supported by the principles of Virtue and Diligence, is achieved by holding yourself as well as brothers to the first two principles. Encouraging your brothers to promote consent and to work to prevent sexual violence in the Greek community and on campus is to show them Brotherly Love. A chapter of Sigma Phi Epsilon holds up Brotherly Love in the way they treat each other and the way they treat the rest of their campus community. To be a chapter which promotes consent and prevents sexual violence is to be a chapter of Brotherly Love.



Sigma Phi Epsilon chapters have already begun to show a commitment to living their Creed through their work on this issue. We’re proud to support the chapters that have shown Virtue, Diligence, and Brotherly Love in their work, and hope to continue to support other chapters that want to take action to promote consent and prevent sexual violence. The Creed of Sigma Phi Epsilon shows a commitment brothers make to be brothers for consent, who recognize the need for the Greek community to step up and be leaders in this work.


The Five Values of Alpha Sigma Phi

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The Alpha Sigma Phi website states – “We are a Fraternity founded upon the values of character…Our values call us to better ourselves through our actions and words.” The Five Values of Alpha Sigma Phi call on their brothers to be their best, including promoting consent and preventing sexual violence on campus. Alpha Sigma Phi has already taken huge steps to be leaders in this work. Their partnership with RAINN has shown a commitment towards using the resources of the Fraternity to help prevent sexual violence, as well as to develop a culture of consent within the Fraternity where sexual assault is not acceptable. According to their site, Alpha Sigma Phi is working with RAINN to develop “a checklist of materials that our chapters and colonies can use to create a safer community.”(1) We’re excited to see and support the work that Alpha Sigma Phi is able to accomplish with RAINN. This work, of course, is backed by The Five Values of Alpha Sigma Phi, which are:

Silence
Charity
Purity
Honor
Patriotism

Silence

Silence, as a value of Alpha Sigma Phi, is not about refusing to stand up for what is right, but rather “an honest desire to truly listen to others”. A brother of Alpha Sigma Phi will always listen to survivors, respecting their experience and supporting them. In addition, they will listen when others talk about what they can do to make their fraternity better. When a brother of Alpha Sigma Phi stands up and says what they can do to promote consent in their chapter, his brothers listen. The value of silence empowers brothers to grow as college men, to better both themselves and their chapter, and to be a chapter that is open to change that will help them better live their values.

Charity

Charity, or, in the term most frequently used in Greek Life, philanthropy, is not simply about raising money for an organization. Fundraising for a good cause is an important and fantastic aspect of all of Greek Life, however to embody the value of Charity, it is as much about doing good for your campus and your chapter as it is about the national organization you’re able to raise money for. An Alpha Sigma Phi is charitable is he “sacrifices of himself to help others and seeks not recognition in return”. A chapter which works to support survivors and work to promote consent within their community creates a safer community and culture for the rest of campus as well as within their brotherhood. It is not always the easiest work, to reflect on what your chapter can do to create a culture of consent, but it is work to better one selves for the sake of others.

Purity

An Alpha Sigma Phi who lives the value of Purity “does not shrink from adversity or lofty goals”. As the It’s On Us campaign, which many national fraternities and individual chapters have pledged to be a part of, we as fraternity men need to work to prevent sexual violence and to promote a culture of consent. While there is a lot of work to be done, Alpha Sigma Phi’s are taking steps to live up to this commitment. To live the value of purity, Alpha Sigma Phi chapters can take steps to be fraternity men who promote a culture of consent and prevent sexual violence. To do so, to be a brother for consent, is to be “moral and a gentleman in the finest sense of the word”.

Honor

The best description of Honor, as it relates to promoting consent within your chapter, is a brother who is “willing to endure scorn or ostracism rather than conform to the pressures of peers, superiors, or the fashion of the day”. Many sites and movies suggest that fraternities do not hold the values written within our organizations, that they do not represent the best of college men. Living the value of honor means taking a stand to promote a culture of consent and to prevent sexual violence on your campus, even if it is not always the easiest thing to work towards as a fraternity. Chapters of Alpha Sigma Phi can still have great parties that have guidelines that help to prevent sexual violence.

Patriotism

Patriotism is more than just support and pride for one’s country, which brothers of Alpha Sigma Phi have done proudly. It is also to promote the best of what, as a national community, we can represent. The White House’s It’s On Us campaign
represents a commitment to make promoting consent and preventing sexual violence a national value. To be patriotic in the best sense of the word, a brother of Alpha Sigma Phi works to spread and support this value. Leading awareness events, educating the entire chapter, and creating a culture in which sexual violence is unacceptable is to be patriotic.The best of country and the best of brotherhood is found in developing a culture of consent.



The Five Values of Alpha Sigma Phi end with the following statement – “Thus our Purpose is to Better the Man through the creation and perpetuation of brotherhood founded upon the values of character: Silence, Charity, Purity, Honor, and Patriotism.” Embedded in this purpose is a commitment to promoting a culture of consent with chapters of Alpha Sigma Phi, to become a group of brothers who work to prevent sexual violence on their campus.


The Core Values of Alpha Sigma Alpha

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This week’s value is from the Alpha Sigma Alpha sorority, who develops “women of poise and purpose” who also can, based on their core values, promote consent and be allies in preventing sexual violence. The Core Values of Alpha Sigma Alpha are:

Balance
Generosity
Growth
Integrity
Learning
Relationships
Responsibility
Enjoyment

Balance, the first value of Alpha Sigma Alpha, gives a perspective of how to approach the other values, as “Alpha Sigma Alphas balance the needs of others in our lives with the needs of the self.” A sister of Alpha Sigma Alpha knows the need to live her values both in her interactions with others and in her individual growth. In terms of promoting consent, this means not only talking with her sisters, friends, family, etc. about what they can do to promote consent and prevent sexual violence, but also reflecting internally and educating herself on the subject. All Greek members should strike this balance to improve themselves and others at the same time

Generosity as a value means that “Alpha Sigma Alphas give of themselves to each other and to the community.” A sister of Alpha Sigma Alpha works with the rest of their chapter to create a culture which promotes consent, to educate themselves to be allies in preventing sexual violence. Generosity may not always be easy in this case, as it might involve challenging each other, but it will lead to the growth of each member of your chapter. Same with the Greek community, working with other chapters who are also working with their members to promote a culture of consent can have a large impact. Alpha Sigma Alpha sisters who connect with other Greeks, both fraternities and sororities, to work to promote consent within all of Greek life are living this value wholeheartedly.

Growth, as said above, is about educating yourself and learning how you can best, as an individual and as a member of Alpha Sigma Alpha, promote a culture of consent and help to prevent sexual violence.

Integrity is “possessing high moral principles.” Being a chapter of Alpha Sigma Alpha whose “thought word and deed” promote a culture of consent means you are a chapter of integrity. This doesn’t mean every single thing you think, say or do is about this issue, but rather that these things are in line with supporting survivors and encouraging consent.

Learning is not something that ends, as Alpha Sigma Alpha says its a “lifelong learning model”. Learning how best to promote consent isn’t something that can be taught, at least not quickly. Rather it’s about educating oneself and learning, over time, how as a sister of Alpha Sigma Alpha you can best create this culture.

Relationships, according to the core values of Alpha Sigma Alpha, are “based on honest communication and demonstrate respect and care for other individuals. In addition to respecting the value of consent and being supportive of survivors as part of living these kinds of relationships, challenging the beliefs and attitudes of those close to you to help them grow as a person is part of having a good relationship. Though hard, honest communication and respect means taking a stand to help those you care about.

Responsibility means to live the Alpha Sigma Alpha values, a sister understands “that with each privilege comes responsibility.” We all know it is a privilege to be Greek and have this fantastic community, part of that privilege is a responsibility to make our chapters and schools the best they can be. That means working to make sure Greek life at your school values a culture of consent, and works to prevent sexual violence both with your organizations and within the entire school. The value of responsibility reads: “We hold each other accountable to live up to Alpha Sigma Alpha’s ideals.” Even when it is difficult, holding fellow Greeks, both sisters and not, accountable to promoting consent is part of living these values.

Enjoyment is a key part to a culture of consent. It can’t be said enough, promoting consent and preventing sexual violence is about making sure everyone is safe and can have a great time. To do so is to enjoy life and make sure others can enjoy it as well.


The Core Values of Alpha Sigma Alpha create a culture in which sisters can create an environment that is welcoming and safe for everyone. To promote consent within this culture means sisters and chapters are recognizing the need to prevent sexual violence in order to create this culture and make sure all people can enjoy that environment. Sisters can take action within their chapters and within the Greek community to live their values by means of education and awareness. Sisters of Alpha Sigma Alpha can and are promoting consent in order to, as their creed says, “love life and joyously live each day to its ultimate good”.


The Delta Zeta Creed

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This week’s value is from the Delta Zeta Sorority, whose creed exemplifies why it’s sisters can commit to promoting a culture of consent and becoming allies in ending sexual violence on campus. Under the slogan of enriching the lives of their members, the Delta Zeta Creed is a great promise to act. The Delta Zeta Creed reads:

To the world, I promise temperance, insight, and courage
To crusade for justice,
To seek the truth and defend it always.
To those whom my life may touch in slight measure,
May I give graciously of what is mine.
To my friends, understanding and appreciation,
To those closer ones, love that is ever steadfast,
To my mind, growth
To myself, faith
That I may walk truly in the light of the flame.

The first promise, “to the world,” is a commitment to the work that Delta Zeta sisters can do to promote consent both in their chapter and in the Greek community on their campuses. Hosting events that promote awareness, education, and activism to prevent sexual violence is a “crusade for justice.” It takes courage to stand up, as an organization, for this issue, and sisters can live up to this promise of the creed by doing so. While the words of the creed may be powerful and even overwhelming, the simple actions a chapter can make – gathering support from other Greek organizations for events, encouraging chapters to get trained, etc. – is following your promise to the world.

Next, “to those whom my life may touch in slight measure,” there are several ways in which promoting a culture of consent can give to people on campus, even with only a bit of contact. Being a community that supports survivors, even those who are not close, can make a world of difference. Promote your organization as a safe space, discourage victim blaming, and support events/programs on campus for survivors. Most of us will know a survivor of sexual violence, but action to support all survivors can be a large part of this promise.

“To my friends, understanding and appreciation” – much can be said and done to live up to this promise in a way which promotes consent. First, friends who may come forward as a survivor, to believe them and support them is a huge action under this promise. Whether the individual is a sister or a friend, this promise is a commitment to support survivors. In addition, understanding of where everyone comes from, while challenging beliefs and actions that may go against a culture of consent, is a part of this promise. Going against someone, especially a friend, is hard, but when done as a part of your care for them, is done to improve your relationship as well as make a better culture.

The last three promises – “to those closer ones,” “to my mind” and “to myself” are all about growing a commitment to the best for yourself and others. Love that is steadfast is about a culture of respect, to support a culture of respect is the same as a culture of consent. Along with necessary education and advocacy, respect is at the core of being allies against sexual violence. Growth of your mind and faith in yourself are steps that will make a Delta Zeta sister a better ally in ending sexual violence and someone who can be a great leader in making the Greek community safer.


The Delta Zeta Creed is a commitment to developing a better sisterhood, but it is also a commitment to making a better community around the chapter. Sisters of Delta Zeta can take action on their promise by working to promote consent in the Greek community, to make consent part of what it means to be a Delta Zeta sister as well as what it means to be a member of any Greek organization on their campus.


The Eleven Basic Expectations of a Delta Chi

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This week’s fraternal value comes from the values of Delta Chi, which includes this list of expectations, which “serve as an extension of our Preamble and give us more specific principles to live by”:

1. I will strive for academic achievement and practice academic integrity.
2. I will respect the dignity and worth of all persons. I will not physically, mentally, psychologically or sexually abuse or haze any human being.
3. I will protect the health and safety of all human beings.
4. I will respect my property and the property of others; therefore, I will neither abuse nor tolerate the abuse of property.
5. I will meet my financial obligations in a timely manner.
6. I will neither use nor support the use of illegal drugs; I will neither abuse nor support the abuse of alcohol.
7. I will acknowledge that a clean and attractive environment is essential to both physical and mental health; therefore, I will do all in my power to see that the chapter property is safe, properly cleaned and maintained.
8. I will know and understand the ideals expressed in my fraternity Ritual and will incorporate them into my daily life.
9. I will exercise compassion and understanding in dealing with all persons.
10. I will sustain my commitment to and involvement with our fraternity throughout my lifetime.
11. I will challenge all my fraternity members to abide by these fraternity obligations and will confront those who violate them.

“I will respect the dignity and worth of all persons. I will not physically, mentally, psychologically or sexually abuse or haze any human being”

While most fraternities have values that call for brothers to promote consent and work to end sexual violence, Delta Chi explicitly outlines this responsibility – “I will respect the dignity and worth of all persons. I will not physically, mentally, psychologically or sexually abuse or haze any human being.” Not only does this call for brothers not to perpetrate sexual violence, but also to not engage in acts of victim blaming or harassment of a victim of sexual violence. Rather, to respect their dignity and worth, brothers are expected to support victims of sexual violence on campus and create a culture in which sexual violence is not acceptable.

“I will protect the health and safety of all human beings”

By being expected to “protect the health and safety of all human beings,” brothers are called to create an environment within their chapter which does not allow for sexual violence. When it comes to this expectation, it is not of just brothers but of the entire campus community.

“I will acknowledge that a clean and attractive environment is essential to both physical and mental health; therefore, I will do all in my power to see that the chapter property is safe, properly cleaned and maintained”

This expectation may ask brothers to not let their house get too messy, but it also sets an expectation for a safe environment, one in which individuals will not be hurt physically or psychologically. When events are held on chapter property, Delta Chi’s can make their house safe through guidelines and actions that work to prevent sexual violence

“I will exercise compassion and understanding in dealing with all persons”

This is a pretty obvious one – by promoting consent and becoming allies in ending sexual violence on campus, brothers are living up to this expectation. However, this applies not just to preventing sexual violence, but to supporting survivors who come forward. Brothers most likely know someone who has been a victim of sexual violence, and may at some point in college or after have someone disclose to them they are a survivor. Brothers should learn how to best support someone who tells them this, to show “compassion and understanding” when it comes to helping a survivor of sexual violence.

“I will challenge all my fraternity members to abide by these fraternity obligations and will confront those who violate them”

Like with most fraternity creeds, Delta Chi’s Expectations expect brothers to hold each other accountable when living their values. By promoting consent within their chapters, talking with each other about things brothers may say or do that do not promote consent, and standing together as allies in ending sexual violence, Delta Chi brothers live up to this final expectation.


The Eleven Basic Expectations of Delta Chi are a great example of how fraternal values, when explained further, call on fraternity brothers to be brothers for consent. Delta Chi exemplifies in these values what it truly means to be a fraternity brother. We’re excited to see what Delta Chi brothers and chapters will do to promote consent and be leaders on their campuses in ending sexual violence.


The Five Core Values of Beta Theta Pi’s Men of Principle

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This week, we’re highlighting the five core values of Beta Theta Pi, who highlight how to develop the best of their members through their Men of Principle initiative. These five values – mutual assistance, intellectual growth, trust, responsible conduct, and integrity – not only promote leadership and strength within their members, but also call on them to promote consent and be allies in ending sexual violence on campus.

Mutual Assistance

Betas believe that men are mutually obligated to help others in the honorable labors and aspirations of life.

Mutual Assistance, as defined by Beta Theta Pi, demands of men to do these honorable works. By being a courageous bystander – calling out sexist comments and catcalls, challenging your fraternity to have policies making your events safe, stepping in when you see something happening – is mutual assistance in action. Promoting consent within your organization is not only acting in a way that lives up to this value, but encouraging others, especially your brothers, to live up to this value as well. Beta brothers should be allies to efforts on campuses to end sexual violence, because that is truly following this value, helping the countless others on campus who are doing what is honorable by advocating for change.

Intellectual Growth

Betas are devoted to continually cultivating their minds, including high standards of academic achievement.

While may not linking to promoting consent as clearly as the other four values, I believe that part of college students devotion to learning is to learn and understand how to promote consent and help to end sexual violence. As men, but more generally as young adults, it is on us to understand these issues so that we can make our campus and our community safer.

Trust

Betas develop absolute faith and confidence in one another by being true to themselves and others.

To trust your brother, to know he truly has your back, is to know he will help you to live up to the values of your fraternity. Trust that your brothers and have your brothers trust you that you all will hold each other to promote consent, to be allies in ending sexual violence, and to be Men of Principle who will do what is right.

Responsible Conduct

Betas choose to act responsibly, weighing the consequences of their actions on themselves and those around them.

To live up to responsible conduct as a value is not just to “not” do things that are wrong, to “not” commit acts of sexual violence. But to be the value of responsible conduct, a brother of Beta Theta Pi promotes and encourages responsible conduct, working with their brothers to create a culture in which responsible conduct is expected. By, as an organization, becoming leaders in efforts to end sexual violence, you are telling other Greek organizations, incoming rushes, and the broader campus community that you value responsible conduct and consent.

Integrity

Betas preserve their character by doing what is morally right and demanding the same from their brothers.

Here, the Beta Theta Pi Core Values wrap up perfectly why Betas should promote consent and be allies in ending sexual violence on campus. To be a Beta, you not only act in a way that promote consent, but you demand the same from your brothers. It is unquestionable that to do what is morally right is to be an organization that is safe and promotes the best of your campus. To value consent is to live up to this code, to be a man of integrity.


The Five Core Values of Beta Theta Pi are a clear message to what being a Beta means. To be a Beta is to learn about sexual violence and to become an organization that values and demands a culture of consent from its members. We’re encouraged that brothers of Beta Theta Pi will take a stand against sexual violence to be #brothersforconsent who make consent part of what it means to be a fraternity brother.


Delta Sigma Phi’s The Better Man

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Delta Sigma Phi models their mission of Building Better Men under the three qualities of The Better Man: Men of Courage, Men of Action, and Men of Excellence. These three qualities are intended to be what pushes each member of Delta Sigma Phi “to be better versions of themselves and positively impact the world through their actions and influence”. The values instilled in each of the three qualities are intended to be used to improve the lives of both the members and the broader campus community. They do call on the brothers of Delta Sigma Phi to promote consent and become leaders in ending sexual assault on campus.


Men of Courage

A Delta Sigma Phi Man of Courage “is not afraid to challenge the status quo.” While many see the status quo within fraternities to be the existence of a culture which encourages sexual assault, the Delta Sigs are expected to challenge this, to make their communities ones which take a stand to promote consent courageously. Fraternities across the country are beginning to recognize the need to make changes to be leaders in ending sexual assault; a Man of Courage is defined by “embracing innovative change and advancement.” To be a Man of Courage, a Delta Sig makes his chapter one which is a leader on this issue.

Men of Action

“The Better Man is committed to improving the human condition with principle and sincerity”. This is the first sentence describing a man of action. It is not a physical or violent action, but rather steps to making the lives of everyone around a brother better. To promote consent and become a leader in ending sexual assault on campus, a Delta Sig commits to doing just that. When he sees “an injustice at hand or an opportunity to improve the world around him, he stands up and lends a hand”. Fraternity men have seen that sexual violence is an issue not only within their own community, but within the larger campus community. They are called to stand up, and lend a hand in the large efforts already being made to make our campuses safer.

Men of Excellence

Men of Excellence are “committed to a lifelong experience of improving society”, striving to better themselves while bettering their community.Each Delta Sig can work to better society by being a part of efforts to make campuses safer. His “dedication to high standards of moral conduct” and commitment to “living with decency and integrity in every aspect of his life” draws him to be a leader in ending sexual assault and promoting consent both in his chapter and in his community.


The Better Man is a code which holds members of Delta Sigma Phi to be the best they can be, and for them to join with other campus leaders in ending sexual assault. Fraternity men, to live up to their values, must create a space in which consent is respected and expected. The Better Men of Delta Sigma Phi hold that value and promote within their brotherhood that Consent is So Frat.


The Creed of Sigma Pi

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Our next Fraternal Value of the Week comes from the Sigma Pi Fraternity. Their creed, like many of the oldest fraternities, is in a style that fits the time it was written. The Sigma Pi Creed reads:

I believe in Sigma Pi, a Fellowship of kindred minds, united in Brotherhood to advance Truth and Justice, to promote Scholarship, to encourage Chivalry, to diffuse Culture, and to develop Character, in the Service of God and Man; and I will strive to make real the Fraternity’s ideals in my own daily life.

Sigma Pi chose to explain their creed to better explain how their brothers could live up to it today. It is in the explanation of their belief “to encourage Chivalry” that Sigma Pi outlines clearly why they promote a culture of consent.

The Sigma Pi Creed states that its brothers “are bound to treat each woman with the respect, dignity and honor that we would bestow on our own mother, sister.” Brothers, by being upheld to this standard, can promote a culture of respect on their campus in which they do not tolerate harassment or sexual assault.

Sigma Pi recognizes the need to challenge sexist language to end sexual violence on campus. They go further in their explanation:

As members of Sigma Pi Fraternity, we will not condone, nor promote printed items (such as t-shirts, posters, banners, websites) which promote the degradation of womankind in any manner. Obscene and sexually explicit material will not be published by anyone, especially within our organization which contains our name or our logos (protected by copy write) which would cause dishonor for the Fraternity or any of its members.

Sigma Pi challenges it’s members to become allies not only in preventing sexual violence but also preventing sexism on campus and within the Greek system.

As they close this section, the Sigma Pi Creed says “Demeaning even one woman, let alone many, is absolutely asinine for a man.” To be a true brother of Sigma Pi, a fraternity member must not contribute to the culture that encourages sexual assault, but rather be part of the solution.

Sigma Pi has shown with the explanation of its creed that it believes consent is part of what it means to be in a fraternity. We’re excited to join with these brothers to help end sexual assault on college campuses.


Pi Kappa Alpha Values of “The True Pike”

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Our next Fraternal Value of the Week comes from the Pi Kappa Alpha Fraternity, or Pike. Their value code, “The True Pike,” is split up into four sections, representing four commitments – “To Myself,” “To My Brothers,” “To My Fraternity,” and “To My Community.” All four of these commitments push Pike brothers to become better men that can help their communities, two of the commitments, “To My Brothers” and “To My Community” do require a commitment to promoting consent on their campuses.

“To My Brothers”

to challenge all brothers to uphold this code and hold accountable those who do not
to respect the dignity of all; not to tolerate physical or mental abuse of any human being
to seek and fulfill leadership roles and participate energetically in Fraternity activities
to encourage my chapter to establish and enforce rigorous academic standards
to urge my chapter not to tolerate abuse of alcohol or drugs
to actively recruit new members who I believe will uphold the Fraternity’s values
to participate enthusiastically in an education program to inculcate our values

As brothers, we are supposed to hold each other accountable to be the best that we can be. A Pike brother’s responsibility to his brothers is to respect others and not to tolerate abuse of individuals. This commitment holds them to stopping sexual assault as well as promoting a culture of consent. It’s a hard conversation to have, but talking with your brothers about the language they use or the actions they take is an important part of helping your brothers become better people. The True Pike code goes above this pledge to say that brothers should participate in education that reinforces their values. Consent education is a great way to teach brothers how to follow their commitment to “respect the dignity of all”.

“To My Community”

to protect the health and safety of others
to participate in campus activities, and stay involved with my alma mater beyond my graduation
to foster good relationships with the University faculty and administration
to serve my community through participation in civic organizations and events

The first commitment Pike brothers make to their community is “to protect the health and safety of others.” Promoting a culture of consent – making their events safer, believing survivors, encouraging conversations around consent with their brothers – is an action of making their campus, their community, safer and healthier. They can further support this commitment by participating in campus events around consent and prevention of sexual assault. Brothers taking a lead in making their campus safer lets them serve their community in a way that promotes the other parts of the value code.

The Pike code ends by saying “Only by so doing, can I fulfill my commitment to Pi Kappa Alpha and be worthy to count myself a True Pike.” By supporting a culture of consent within their chapter and on campus, the Pi Kappa Alpha fraternity upholds themselves as “True Pikes” who represent why Consent is So Frat.


Sigma Alpha Epsilon’s Creed of “The True Gentleman”

SAE Logo, www.sae.net

For our first week, we’re highlighting the creed of Sigma Alpha Epsilon, “The True Gentleman”:

The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.
– John Walter Wayland

The creed talks about being the best a man can be. A True Gentleman asks for consent, drawing from the creed, because his “conduct proceeds from good will” and beacuse he “thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own”. The Sigma Alpha Epsilon Creed speaks to consent because it speaks to being a man of principle who does act in ways that harms. By valuing and asking for consent, a brother of Sigma Alpha Epsilon upholds their code in their relationships with other members of their campus community.

“The True Gentlemen” of Sigma Alpha Epsilon, your fraternal values show that Consent is So Frat.

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Consent is So Frat

Making consent and healthy relationships part of what it means to be a fraternity brother or sorority sister.

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